Scorpio Soul Search

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Ultimate Goal

“You are born here to be happy”

“Winning or losing, Life is a celebration”

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Everyday, we face a lot of situations which make us feel happy, sad, angry, upset, overwhelmed, depressed or confused too sometime. Whatever may be the reaction, it is very important that as soon as possible, we return back to our basic objective of our life, i.e, being happy.ย 

If we allow any other feelings that I mentioned above to take over the whole day, the knots will be tightened and detangling will be difficult, which is against our human nature. We need to find the ends quickly and be free and fine at the end of the day. When we focus on the positive things, however small they may be, it will blow up soon to mask the failings. It is also true that happiness is communicable and we make the world a better place to live for others by we being happy.ย 

As per my understanding and experience so far, life is a balancing act, day in day out. People who have understood this and took control at the earliest, find peace and happiness in their life. Success follows them since they make it happen in the way they desire it. The happy person can improve life not only for himself but also for others by spreading his positive energy on them.

Our good health is the basic canvas on which we draw the picture of our life; I felt that to obtain a healthy mind and body, happiness is the key which comes only when we have the control over our emotions, in turn our reactions to situations. Hence, although at times I am overcome with sadness, anger, regrets and resentments, I don’t want to allow them to run amok forever. I take a decision, shift the gear and turn my focus on the infinite blessings of my life and force / fake a smile initially which soon turn into the natural feeling. ๐Ÿ˜Šโ˜บ๏ธ

I am neither a saint nor can become one ๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜‰ but totally unwilling to live in perpetual misery as I sincerely believe my life is a gift and I should cherish the moments as merrily as possible. Because That is my ‘ultimate Goal’ย ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜Š

My plain and simple suggestion is……whenever you are feeling low, change gear, focus on the positive, fake a smile and ‘Be natural self’ again, ‘coz, we are ‘Born Here To Be Happy’ ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Happy Weekend to all!!!!๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

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Long Nose

It is not the Pinocchio type olfactory lobe extension I am talking about here.

I have a strong sense of smells catching them from afar as if my nose extends its length every day. This acute sensory organ makes me cringe if the odour is unpleasant although my companions at the time are in ignorance and bliss. While my hearing and seeing abilities are not-so-awesome to boast off, I am blessed with this extraordinary power to grab the whip of any fragrance from a distance more than I wish to.

Have mercy on me when I am in the lift with people who have no clue that wearing the same t-shirt every day for their workout does not give them some scoring point against those who don’t exercise at all. They are totally in comfortable embrace with their sweat and body odour that they just don’t want to part with them by washing their fitness clothes, which burn my olfactory nerve till it is ashen.

On the other extreme, I also will be greeted by the concoction of fruity / floral perfume residues left back by people who sprayed every inch of their body and garments on them with deodorant, body spray, hair spray, scented spray whatever else is made available to them.

This robust sensation sometimes fills my brain so much that my other senses are numb to enjoy the beauty presented to my sight or the intelligentsia offered to my ears. While it is assaulting me to the point of ย fainting, my family will be totally cool and clueless about it. ๐Ÿ˜›

Even though the weather is so pleasant to keep the windows open to enjoy the breeze, I always drive keeping them shut fearing some strong smell troubling me. When traveling in other’s car / taxi it will be a double whammy if the fabric or the interior of the car smelt bad (to my nose ) and the windows were closed!

This acute sense of odour some inherit or have due to their DNA structure is called, ‘HYPEROSMIA”, Wikipedia informs me!ย 

So be aware that my “long nose” is not similar to Pinocchio’s ๐Ÿ˜‰ and sincerely hope this makes sense to you all ๐Ÿ˜€

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Winged Days

An unhurried sense of time in itself is wealth – Anonymous

Why the days fly so fast?Why can’t they slow down a bit? Minutes vanish when I blink and turn into hours and days. Days chase weeks and weekends away. Before even I ย am sure of the current date, another month is here already. Is time playing with me only or with all?

I wake up on a Friday and turn over to see the Sunday evening. Monday opens up with the blues and soon Thursday is ringed in with the green bells. Either week days or weekends, all those 24 hours run like a marathoner and reach their end line in a flash. ย  Recollecting the accomplishment of a day or a week or a month is so foggy that it is unclear whether I achieved it this year or in the year before ๐Ÿ˜‰ My memory is always not that strong ย ๐Ÿ˜›

I like my days to be unhurried and relaxed enough to do the things I want to do. It should be long enough for me to complete them and feel a sense of achievement before I hit the bed. This blurry rush of things and always doing some chores as routine life demands are not what I planned my days to be. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

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But I also know, I am the pilot of my days and should ย manoeuvre it in the direction I choose to travel. It is the speed which I need to take control first! ๐Ÿ˜€

More mastery and ย command over the clock soon!


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Live Life Lightly :D

Ages since I wrote something and it was sitting like a heavy stone on my heart. Since it is my nature to do something only when I am absolutely comfortable and feel perfect, I was postponing the process of converting my thoughts into words.

I planned to write about:

  • the calm and totally relaxing summer break I had with my son
  • myย unexpectedย comeback to teaching which is fulfilling
  • my observations on the changes happening in our son growing from a tween to a teen
  • how I went from the initial shock to calmly accepting the inevitable when our son also turned vegan one fine evening (hubby turned vegan a year back)
  • the two runs (6K and 4K) I participated recently and my takeaways from them
  • the joy of knowing that the effort of regular work out finally showing up
  • the knowledge or enlightenment(!!!) that understanding what is important in life and how to overlook/ignore certain things

All ย are mixed up with emotions overflowing sometime and utterly blank other times. Hence this delay in posting anything till I sort out in my mind on what I want to write. But the days were full of so much learning and insight to get a hang of my inner feelings and matching them with my external being.

Ah, truly I am blessed to have started the journey of ‘being happy and contented’ irrespective of the situations I am in. Wait there, I haven’t drunk the ‘elixir’ or attained inordinate wisdom , it is still the same path with ups and downs, however, the time taken to move from the low point to high point keeps reducing as with the awareness. ย I am slowly overcoming the guilty and fear I feel every time I am happy. Practicing to live life lightly by shedding the excess baggage one by one, thats it. ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜€

We are borne here to be happy, period. Celebrate life!!!!!! ๐Ÿ™‚


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Realisation

I haven’t written anything for more than a fortnight which is a longtime after starting to blog. But I was not restless this time. I have accepted the impossibility due to my preoccupation with other things. Though I felt sad that I couldn’t allot time for my favourite thing in the world, I was not upset and moody about it, which usually happens and affects everything around me.โ˜น๏ธ๐Ÿ˜–

“Stress is caused by being here and wanting to be there”

It was a great realisation that what is happening in the moment, i.e., NOW, is more important than what I missed or couldn’t do or could have done. (Yahoo!! ….that means I have matured enough to understand and accept realities / situations ๐Ÿ˜œ)

Yes, last few days, I was preoccupied with things at the ground level and couldn’t allow my mind to fly away as I loved to do. ๐Ÿฆ‹๐Ÿฆ‹

Usually when I have things other than what I want to do, I will be restless and frustrated. I will imagine myself a donkey pulling a heavy cart load that too reluctantly and feel burdened with the mundane tasks.ย I was amazed that this time I had more control over my mind and didn’t allow it to throw tantrums (eh!!! I still do), shown a lot of patience and resilience, focussed on what has to be done rather than disillusioned, which felt really good.

Someone said no one is busy in the world; only the priorities differ. Being aware of the priorities at this point was the key for my keeping calm. I am no super human and within the available 24 hours, providing for eating and sleeping๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿ˜ด (I surely can’t leave these out of my planning๐Ÿ˜Š), only certain activities can be taken up and achieved.ย I have to clearly mention here that it solely depends on the ability of the person.

It is absolutely unnecessary to fret over things that are not done / cannot be done. Being in the present moment is the best gift we can give to ourselves rather than either constantly regretting about the past or planning for the future. Though heard this many a times before, the practical application, however unplanned, brought such a joy and revelation.

I am aware of my capabilities (if I am ignorant even now, then I need to see a doctor ๐Ÿค’๐Ÿ‘จโ€โš•๏ธ ) and limitations to take up tasks accordingly. Based on the capacity of the container and the density of the material we decide the quantity that can be stored. Similarly every day comes with only limited hours and lets fill it to the brim with different deeds but without frustrating ourselves and a mindfullness.

“Today is the first day of the rest of my life”

is an excellent quote to begin everyday!

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Sharp Witted and Smart

I can’t call my sonย a hyperactive or a mischievous kid. (He is all of 12 now ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ) He never did anything in a hurry or involved in making or breaking things by way of curiosity. He satisfied his inquisitive child mind by reading innumerable books and extensively (need to put rules oftentimes) using his iPad.๐Ÿ“ฑ

He started to Google when he was pronouncing it as ‘Gulgul’ and is a storehouse of information on topics interested him (like Football, Scientific principles, Chemical elements, Apple products, Indian and Greek Mythology, to name a few).ย I do appreciate and be proud (as a mom can be) of the quick way with which he retrieves the details when necessary and delivers in a calm and composed manner.

He always makes me laugh with his replies and sometimes help to diffuse the seriousness of the situations.ย (He must have inherited the sense of humour and quick wit from his father as I take time to respond and nowadays it doesn’t come out funny most of the time)

I always tell him that I should note them down and write a post sometime.ย Recently I have noted some and would like to register them here for eternity. ๐Ÿ™‚

Veiled Complement!

I made Neyyappam (a south Indian sweet dish made with rice, jaggery and ghee for the folks from other parts of the world) for a festival. ย The taste of the final product was good but its shape was not as it supposed to be. I was upset and felt bad that it is not upto the mark.

After eating a piece, my son said “Amma it tastes very good and I like it because it is identical as you, very nice but without shape” ย (๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜… Hey sure, I got motivated to get in shape from that time)

A good gift

During one of the holidays, his friend’s ย mom sent a big message asking him not to call in their landline so many times in a day to invite her son to play as it disturbs him too much. After a long conversation with my son I have understood that it was exaggerated by the boy for some other reason since only three calls were made in five days. However, instructed him not to call the boy anymore to avoid misunderstanding with the Mom.

After a few days, that friend’s birthday was ensuing and so asked my son “What do you want to give X as a birthday gift?โ€ He replied โ€œ How about a phone call??โ€โ€ ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ“ž

Hypocrite

One day we both saw a guy running in the mid afternoon, while we were coming back home. Since I know the guy from being a teenager, I stopped the car and asked him why he is out in the hot sun. He said that he got up late and wanted to work out.๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿป

At home, I casually asked my son “Will you also be like this at his age? Not going to work and getting up late, etc?”

He said “What’s wrong? I may marry a rich working woman and be at home”

I said, “If you marry a rich working woman, you should take care of home and kid(s). Don’t think it is easy, ย you should put in a lot of work”

He replied, “You are a hypocrite, you are a staying at home parent now and telling me why shouldn’t I be one”๐Ÿ™†

Lying plainlyย 

He is so confident about his looks and personality which I do agree ( For every mother, her kid(s) is/are the best) and he loves it.

But once in a while I make comments about his hair or teeth or dress which needs attention saying it looks ‘horrible’ (exaggeration to get attention…moms can agree with me) to which he will react angrily.

So I asked him once, “You just believe when I say you look awesome but getting angry when I say you don’t. Why is that so?”

He said “because that’s when you are lying” !!!!!๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ

Life is interesting with him around and I am thankful for that!๐Ÿ‘ชimages-14


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Busy..ness as usual

Hi All,

The repair and maintenance work taken up at home (usual doing summer holidays and this time changed the flooring!), consumed my time wholly and couldn’t post anything new for the last few days.

Spent a lot of time inside the house and going through the things to discard and store. This led me to write a piece which I was postponing for long.

In that post I reminisced about some of the memorable moments I have shared with my son and the memory brought smiles.

Just check out and let me know your important-never-to-be-forgotten instances in your life, especially with the kid(s) if you are a parent ๐Ÿ™‚

https://vinrama.wordpress.com/2017/04/19/sharp-witted-and-smart/

Will soon come with a post on OET – One Emotional Thing- of my day!!!