Scorpio Soul Search


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Live Life Lightly :D

Ages since I wrote something and it was sitting like a heavy stone on my heart. Since it is my nature to do something only when I am absolutely comfortable and feel perfect, I was postponing the process of converting my thoughts into words.

I planned to write about:

  • the calm and totally relaxing summer break I had with my son
  • my unexpected comeback to teaching which is fulfilling
  • my observations on the changes happening in our son growing from a tween to a teen
  • how I went from the initial shock to calmly accepting the inevitable when our son also turned vegan one fine evening (hubby turned vegan a year back)
  • the two runs (6K and 4K) I participated recently and my takeaways from them
  • the joy of knowing that the effort of regular work out finally showing up
  • the knowledge or enlightenment(!!!) that understanding what is important in life and how to overlook/ignore certain things

All  are mixed up with emotions overflowing sometime and utterly blank other times. Hence this delay in posting anything till I sort out in my mind on what I want to write. But the days were full of so much learning and insight to get a hang of my inner feelings and matching them with my external being.

Ah, truly I am blessed to have started the journey of ‘being happy and contented’ irrespective of the situations I am in. Wait there, I haven’t drunk the ‘elixir’ or attained inordinate wisdom , it is still the same path with ups and downs, however, the time taken to move from the low point to high point keeps reducing as with the awareness.  I am slowly overcoming the guilty and fear I feel every time I am happy. Practicing to live life lightly by shedding the excess baggage one by one, thats it. 😉 😀

We are borne here to be happy, period. Celebrate life!!!!!! 🙂


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Realisation

I haven’t written anything for more than a fortnight which is a longtime after starting to blog. But I was not restless this time. I have accepted the impossibility due to my preoccupation with other things. Though I felt sad that I couldn’t allot time for my favourite thing in the world, I was not upset and moody about it, which usually happens and affects everything around me.☹️😖

“Stress is caused by being here and wanting to be there”

It was a great realisation that what is happening in the moment, i.e., NOW, is more important than what I missed or couldn’t do or could have done. (Yahoo!! ….that means I have matured enough to understand and accept realities / situations 😜)

Yes, last few days, I was preoccupied with things at the ground level and couldn’t allow my mind to fly away as I loved to do. 🦋🦋

Usually when I have things other than what I want to do, I will be restless and frustrated. I will imagine myself a donkey pulling a heavy cart load that too reluctantly and feel burdened with the mundane tasks. I was amazed that this time I had more control over my mind and didn’t allow it to throw tantrums (eh!!! I still do), shown a lot of patience and resilience, focussed on what has to be done rather than disillusioned, which felt really good.

Someone said no one is busy in the world; only the priorities differ. Being aware of the priorities at this point was the key for my keeping calm. I am no super human and within the available 24 hours, providing for eating and sleeping😋😴 (I surely can’t leave these out of my planning😊), only certain activities can be taken up and achieved. I have to clearly mention here that it solely depends on the ability of the person.

It is absolutely unnecessary to fret over things that are not done / cannot be done. Being in the present moment is the best gift we can give to ourselves rather than either constantly regretting about the past or planning for the future. Though heard this many a times before, the practical application, however unplanned, brought such a joy and revelation.

I am aware of my capabilities (if I am ignorant even now, then I need to see a doctor 🤒👨‍⚕️ ) and limitations to take up tasks accordingly. Based on the capacity of the container and the density of the material we decide the quantity that can be stored. Similarly every day comes with only limited hours and lets fill it to the brim with different deeds but without frustrating ourselves and a mindfullness.

“Today is the first day of the rest of my life”

is an excellent quote to begin everyday!

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Sharp Witted and Smart

I can’t call my son a hyperactive or a mischievous kid. (He is all of 12 now 🙋‍♂️) He never did anything in a hurry or involved in making or breaking things by way of curiosity. He satisfied his inquisitive child mind by reading innumerable books and extensively (need to put rules oftentimes) using his iPad.📱

He started to Google when he was pronouncing it as ‘Gulgul’ and is a storehouse of information on topics interested him (like Football, Scientific principles, Chemical elements, Apple products, Indian and Greek Mythology, to name a few). I do appreciate and be proud (as a mom can be) of the quick way with which he retrieves the details when necessary and delivers in a calm and composed manner.

He always makes me laugh with his replies and sometimes help to diffuse the seriousness of the situations. (He must have inherited the sense of humour and quick wit from his father as I take time to respond and nowadays it doesn’t come out funny most of the time)

I always tell him that I should note them down and write a post sometime. Recently I have noted some and would like to register them here for eternity. 🙂

Veiled Complement!

I made Neyyappam (a south Indian sweet dish made with rice, jaggery and ghee for the folks from other parts of the world) for a festival.  The taste of the final product was good but its shape was not as it supposed to be. I was upset and felt bad that it is not upto the mark.

After eating a piece, my son said “Amma it tastes very good and I like it because it is identical as you, very nice but without shape”  (😜😅 Hey sure, I got motivated to get in shape from that time)

A good gift

During one of the holidays, his friend’s  mom sent a big message asking him not to call in their landline so many times in a day to invite her son to play as it disturbs him too much. After a long conversation with my son I have understood that it was exaggerated by the boy for some other reason since only three calls were made in five days. However, instructed him not to call the boy anymore to avoid misunderstanding with the Mom.

After a few days, that friend’s birthday was ensuing and so asked my son “What do you want to give X as a birthday gift?” He replied “ How about a phone call??”” 😉 😛📞

Hypocrite

One day we both saw a guy running in the mid afternoon, while we were coming back home. Since I know the guy from being a teenager, I stopped the car and asked him why he is out in the hot sun. He said that he got up late and wanted to work out.🏃🏻

At home, I casually asked my son “Will you also be like this at his age? Not going to work and getting up late, etc?”

He said “What’s wrong? I may marry a rich working woman and be at home”

I said, “If you marry a rich working woman, you should take care of home and kid(s). Don’t think it is easy,  you should put in a lot of work”

He replied, “You are a hypocrite, you are a staying at home parent now and telling me why shouldn’t I be one”🙆

Lying plainly 

He is so confident about his looks and personality which I do agree ( For every mother, her kid(s) is/are the best) and he loves it.

But once in a while I make comments about his hair or teeth or dress which needs attention saying it looks ‘horrible’ (exaggeration to get attention…moms can agree with me) to which he will react angrily.

So I asked him once, “You just believe when I say you look awesome but getting angry when I say you don’t. Why is that so?”

He said “because that’s when you are lying” !!!!!🤦‍♀️

Life is interesting with him around and I am thankful for that!👪images-14


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Busy..ness as usual

Hi All,

The repair and maintenance work taken up at home (usual doing summer holidays and this time changed the flooring!), consumed my time wholly and couldn’t post anything new for the last few days.

Spent a lot of time inside the house and going through the things to discard and store. This led me to write a piece which I was postponing for long.

In that post I reminisced about some of the memorable moments I have shared with my son and the memory brought smiles.

Just check out and let me know your important-never-to-be-forgotten instances in your life, especially with the kid(s) if you are a parent 🙂

https://vinrama.wordpress.com/2017/04/19/sharp-witted-and-smart/

Will soon come with a post on OET – One Emotional Thing- of my day!!!


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All izzz Well!

Thanks so much for all the likes.

It feels so good to know that someone appreciates what you share here.👍

Sorry was caught up with things today hence couldn’t check your blogs which I assure to do by tomorrow.

OET of the day is CONTENTMENT

Today is a satisfied and contented day even though a bit tiring.😵

Everything went off as expected and I could squeeze in two more unexpected activities too!😊

Weekends I have to drive my son for his football coaching (yeah a soccer mom⚽️!) so the routine is well planned and executed for the last two and a half years.

With a league match tomorrow among  different teams of their club, a kind of excitement among kids and parents too. It will be a long trip to the match venue and will take up the whole day with the match in the afternoon.  Teamed up with another parent so it will be a nice picnic too😉 Tomorrow will share the experience!

Wishing a Happy Easter and Awesome Sunday to you all!


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Celebration – OET of the Day

Today I am in celebratory mode, in India we are celebrating Our New year which is called Puthandu in Tamil, Vishu in Malayalam, Baisakhi in Punjabi, Ugadi in Kannada, Pohele Boishakh in Bengali. 🙂

The celebrations mark the beginning of our solar year and the first day of the regional calendars. This time it fell on a Friday which is considered as an auspicious day by the Hindus giving an optimistic outlook for the new year all around. This season is when we get lot of fresh fruits especially the king of the fruits ‘Mango’ and Jack fruit which are my favourites, one more reason for the celebration.😋🍋

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The monsoon showers about to start hereafter which are eagerly awaited throughout the country enabling bountiful agricultural production as farming was affected last year due to drought. I personally praying and looking forward to a good monsoon this year. With clouds gathering across the sky, I can sniff the rains 😉

It is also Good Friday and throughout the world christians are merrily preparing for the Easter Sunday. Hence I feel the apt emotion for the day is ‘Celebration’🌈🎉🎉

Live, Love and Celebrate!!!!!! Wishing you all a great weekend!


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One Emotional Thing – OET

I am an emotional and sensitive being. All my rational thinking will come a bit later after I have reacted emotionally first. Don’t remember whether I was like this from birth but as far as my memory goes (which is very short actually) 😉 I am like this only.

Some of my reactions will get appreciation as small things make me very happy; being the genuine on the spot rejoinder it will catch up quickly with people around me. Getting happy and excited for small pleasures in life enabled me to be smiling most of the times for which I am eternally grateful.

Sometimes it leads to guilty and regrets which I vow to avoid in future but mostly in vain.  😦

Over the years I have learnt to tame my retorts and keep it under some control. However, at times, it runs amok especially when I am among the loved ones. The reason I quote for this not very desirable behaviour is that since it is my original nature I don’t want to mask it when I am with my near and dear ones…… 😛

I saw the post in my word press reader about this blog where the blogger posts ‘One beautiful thing (OBT) ‘ either a picture or an art piece or a jewellery that caught her eye on that day  (check out Donna’s blog: https://myonebeautifulthing.com)

This kindled my imagination and inspired me to start posting and share with the world the ‘One Emotional Thing’ that makes me feel something on a day. Whether it made me happy or sad, angry or disgust, worry or depressed,  that one major thing of the day which dominated my mind I would like to write about.

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It may be an experience, incidence I saw, anecdote I heard, a message I read or something happened somewhere, whichever it is, should have stirred an emotion in me. Writing down my thoughts makes my heart light and joyful. In addition posting my feelings may help me to manage them better too 😉

Sincerely believe and hope that daily I will post. Wish me Good luck !!!!!!   🙂

Feeling of the DayHAPPINESS

Beginning with the positive and queen of the emotions (I consider Happiness is feminine gender as happy females are the best of the world!) and love to share the joy and pleasure I felt today.

I love swimming and whenever I can go to the pool and wade for some time, I feel so happy. Be warned that I can neither do a lap across the pool continuously nor can hold breadth under water for more than 10 seconds, still the satisfaction I get from floating in water is unequivocal.

I had attended aqua aerobics training for a month recently and enjoyed the set of exercises very much. Today in the pool I practiced some of those exercises I have learnt, floated happily, kicked and splashed around, swam a little and feeling so good. I tried floating on my back and want to practice more on it. Hope to go regularly in the whole of summer 😀

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Would love to hear the ‘One thing’ that made you all Happy  today.