Scorpio Soul Search

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Time of the year to recollect, reflect and rejoice. Here I am with my analysis.

A great year personally as I recount today.  Not that everything had changed over the year or the planets have aligned perfectly to ensure that things happened only in the way I expected them to be. Nah! nothing of that sort 🙂

Rather, I have revamped my outlook to sharpen the focus on what is important and cut off the rest. To filter the noise and hear the music; To trim the frills and appreciate the design; To quieten the drama and get the essence; Overall, some monsters were slain on my way to the cloud nine!

Let me mention the 7 areas where I gained by losing and arrived a positive balance.

No one but you: First and foremost, I chased the ghost out of my mind that someone is bothered about what I am doing. Reality hit me big time that it is absolutely my race and how I run fully depends on me and me alone.

Yes! There may be comments on what others see but what you project is what they will see. Hence I spent my energy to do , rather than wasting it on worrying about what someone else is going to say.  Action speaks its own words and it has shown its effect!

Decisiveness: Empathising and taking good care not to hurt anyone with my words or deeds are my strengths. However, in some instances it put me in a tight spot and frustrated whenever they are in conflict with my personal interests. Decided to be firm in my dealings and conveyed things decisively instead of being in dilemma forever wondering how it will affect others.

With this change I have saved myself from a lot of unnecessary brooding I do before any decision and directed my mind for more productive works 😈. Still working on this but at least  feel I found the key to this room!😉

Experience Matters: I am usually bothered a lot about the results and will plan and replan how to do a thing and in that will totally forget how to enjoy the experience of doing something. This actually drained my energy and in the end the expected won’t come as well. This attitude of mine stems from the perfectionist in me. This year I consciously took out the anticipation from the equation.

Because I was not tensed about the outcome, I could improve on the efficiency part, resulting in better performance. Meanwhile enjoyed the experience too which is what actually matters anymore! ☺️Try it with your exercise regime without looking regularly at the weighing machine, you will understand what I mean 😉

Brush aside the unbidden: Many a times, we get some extra along with whatever  we wished for and they take our attention away from the blessings we have received. Decided to sever them with a clean cut from my focus. Rejoiced on my blessings and released the complaints to float away far off .

Having a beautiful house overlooking a garden is a blessing while the amount of dust to clean daily is a small discomfort, right? Having a Healthy and active Family is a fortune while piling up dirty laundry can be dealt with, right?😅🙄👹

Reaction ok, not overreaction : This one really needed a lot of practice😁. I had this habit of reacting on the spur of moment which always caused heart burn and regret later. I have brought about 80% control on this pattern of behaviour and working on towards 100% percent😬😷.

I really enjoy the happiness it brings to me as the amount of regret and guilt I used to feel after flying off the handle have reduced. Wish me the best!

Fear of unknown: This is one big monster I needed to slay for long which I could do this year. The known devil was scaring me about the unknown angel and preventing me from embracing changes.

Somehow I freed myself from its clutches, Oh man! Am I not a happy being now🤗💃🏻

Calm while the Storm rages: Accepting Murphy’s law. When I am aware that something is going to go wrong, instead of panicking, I go for damage control. When my nerves are straining and temper flaring, I practice deep breathing and direct myself to do the essential. Training the mind to search for the positivity in the whole thing how much ever minuscule it may be.

Once I found the point of positivity, I keep blowing it big to help me swim to the shore. Hoping not to face many storms in future and find calm waters forever YOLO!!!!

Wishing and aspiring that these monsters don’t rear their ugly heads again in 2018😃 and if so grant me more power to slay them again!💪💪

Wishing an amazing , prosperous , joyful and healthy

 2018 to all of you!!!!! 💐💐


Love and peace!!!



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Long Nose

It is not the Pinocchio type olfactory lobe extension I am talking about here.

I have a strong sense of smells catching them from afar as if my nose extends its length every day. This acute sensory organ makes me cringe if the odour is unpleasant although my companions at the time are in ignorance and bliss. While my hearing and seeing abilities are not-so-awesome to boast off, I am blessed with this extraordinary power to grab the whip of any fragrance from a distance more than I wish to.

Have mercy on me when I am in the lift with people who have no clue that wearing the same t-shirt every day for their workout does not give them some scoring point against those who don’t exercise at all. They are totally in comfortable embrace with their sweat and body odour that they just don’t want to part with them by washing their fitness clothes, which burn my olfactory nerve till it is ashen.

On the other extreme, I also will be greeted by the concoction of fruity / floral perfume residues left back by people who sprayed every inch of their body and garments on them with deodorant, body spray, hair spray, scented spray whatever else is made available to them.

This robust sensation sometimes fills my brain so much that my other senses are numb to enjoy the beauty presented to my sight or the intelligentsia offered to my ears. While it is assaulting me to the point of  fainting, my family will be totally cool and clueless about it. 😛

Even though the weather is so pleasant to keep the windows open to enjoy the breeze, I always drive keeping them shut fearing some strong smell troubling me. When traveling in other’s car / taxi it will be a double whammy if the fabric or the interior of the car smelt bad (to my nose ) and the windows were closed!

This acute sense of odour some inherit or have due to their DNA structure is called, ‘HYPEROSMIA”, Wikipedia informs me! 

So be aware that my “long nose” is not similar to Pinocchio’s 😉 and sincerely hope this makes sense to you all 😀

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Sharp Witted and Smart

I can’t call my son a hyperactive or a mischievous kid. (He is all of 12 now 🙋‍♂️) He never did anything in a hurry or involved in making or breaking things by way of curiosity. He satisfied his inquisitive child mind by reading innumerable books and extensively (need to put rules oftentimes) using his iPad.📱

He started to Google when he was pronouncing it as ‘Gulgul’ and is a storehouse of information on topics interested him (like Football, Scientific principles, Chemical elements, Apple products, Indian and Greek Mythology, to name a few). I do appreciate and be proud (as a mom can be) of the quick way with which he retrieves the details when necessary and delivers in a calm and composed manner.

He always makes me laugh with his replies and sometimes help to diffuse the seriousness of the situations. (He must have inherited the sense of humour and quick wit from his father as I take time to respond and nowadays it doesn’t come out funny most of the time)

I always tell him that I should note them down and write a post sometime. Recently I have noted some and would like to register them here for eternity. 🙂

Veiled Complement!

I made Neyyappam (a south Indian sweet dish made with rice, jaggery and ghee for the folks from other parts of the world) for a festival.  The taste of the final product was good but its shape was not as it supposed to be. I was upset and felt bad that it is not upto the mark.

After eating a piece, my son said “Amma it tastes very good and I like it because it is identical as you, very nice but without shape”  (😜😅 Hey sure, I got motivated to get in shape from that time)

A good gift

During one of the holidays, his friend’s  mom sent a big message asking him not to call in their landline so many times in a day to invite her son to play as it disturbs him too much. After a long conversation with my son I have understood that it was exaggerated by the boy for some other reason since only three calls were made in five days. However, instructed him not to call the boy anymore to avoid misunderstanding with the Mom.

After a few days, that friend’s birthday was ensuing and so asked my son “What do you want to give X as a birthday gift?” He replied “ How about a phone call??”” 😉 😛📞


One day we both saw a guy running in the mid afternoon, while we were coming back home. Since I know the guy from being a teenager, I stopped the car and asked him why he is out in the hot sun. He said that he got up late and wanted to work out.🏃🏻

At home, I casually asked my son “Will you also be like this at his age? Not going to work and getting up late, etc?”

He said “What’s wrong? I may marry a rich working woman and be at home”

I said, “If you marry a rich working woman, you should take care of home and kid(s). Don’t think it is easy,  you should put in a lot of work”

He replied, “You are a hypocrite, you are a staying at home parent now and telling me why shouldn’t I be one”🙆

Lying plainly 

He is so confident about his looks and personality which I do agree ( For every mother, her kid(s) is/are the best) and he loves it.

But once in a while I make comments about his hair or teeth or dress which needs attention saying it looks ‘horrible’ (exaggeration to get attention…moms can agree with me) to which he will react angrily.

So I asked him once, “You just believe when I say you look awesome but getting angry when I say you don’t. Why is that so?”

He said “because that’s when you are lying” !!!!!🤦‍♀️

Life is interesting with him around and I am thankful for that!👪images-14


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All izzz Well!

Thanks so much for all the likes.

It feels so good to know that someone appreciates what you share here.👍

Sorry was caught up with things today hence couldn’t check your blogs which I assure to do by tomorrow.

OET of the day is CONTENTMENT

Today is a satisfied and contented day even though a bit tiring.😵

Everything went off as expected and I could squeeze in two more unexpected activities too!😊

Weekends I have to drive my son for his football coaching (yeah a soccer mom⚽️!) so the routine is well planned and executed for the last two and a half years.

With a league match tomorrow among  different teams of their club, a kind of excitement among kids and parents too. It will be a long trip to the match venue and will take up the whole day with the match in the afternoon.  Teamed up with another parent so it will be a nice picnic too😉 Tomorrow will share the experience!

Wishing a Happy Easter and Awesome Sunday to you all!


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Celebration – OET of the Day

Today I am in celebratory mode, in India we are celebrating Our New year which is called Puthandu in Tamil, Vishu in Malayalam, Baisakhi in Punjabi, Ugadi in Kannada, Pohele Boishakh in Bengali. 🙂

The celebrations mark the beginning of our solar year and the first day of the regional calendars. This time it fell on a Friday which is considered as an auspicious day by the Hindus giving an optimistic outlook for the new year all around. This season is when we get lot of fresh fruits especially the king of the fruits ‘Mango’ and Jack fruit which are my favourites, one more reason for the celebration.😋🍋


The monsoon showers about to start hereafter which are eagerly awaited throughout the country enabling bountiful agricultural production as farming was affected last year due to drought. I personally praying and looking forward to a good monsoon this year. With clouds gathering across the sky, I can sniff the rains 😉

It is also Good Friday and throughout the world christians are merrily preparing for the Easter Sunday. Hence I feel the apt emotion for the day is ‘Celebration’🌈🎉🎉

Live, Love and Celebrate!!!!!! Wishing you all a great weekend!


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One Emotional Thing – OET

I am an emotional and sensitive being. All my rational thinking will come a bit later after I have reacted emotionally first. Don’t remember whether I was like this from birth but as far as my memory goes (which is very short actually) 😉 I am like this only.

Some of my reactions will get appreciation as small things make me very happy; being the genuine on the spot rejoinder it will catch up quickly with people around me. Getting happy and excited for small pleasures in life enabled me to be smiling most of the times for which I am eternally grateful.

Sometimes it leads to guilty and regrets which I vow to avoid in future but mostly in vain.  😦

Over the years I have learnt to tame my retorts and keep it under some control. However, at times, it runs amok especially when I am among the loved ones. The reason I quote for this not very desirable behaviour is that since it is my original nature I don’t want to mask it when I am with my near and dear ones…… 😛

I saw the post in my word press reader about this blog where the blogger posts ‘One beautiful thing (OBT) ‘ either a picture or an art piece or a jewellery that caught her eye on that day  (check out Donna’s blog:

This kindled my imagination and inspired me to start posting and share with the world the ‘One Emotional Thing’ that makes me feel something on a day. Whether it made me happy or sad, angry or disgust, worry or depressed,  that one major thing of the day which dominated my mind I would like to write about.


It may be an experience, incidence I saw, anecdote I heard, a message I read or something happened somewhere, whichever it is, should have stirred an emotion in me. Writing down my thoughts makes my heart light and joyful. In addition posting my feelings may help me to manage them better too 😉

Sincerely believe and hope that daily I will post. Wish me Good luck !!!!!!   🙂

Feeling of the DayHAPPINESS

Beginning with the positive and queen of the emotions (I consider Happiness is feminine gender as happy females are the best of the world!) and love to share the joy and pleasure I felt today.

I love swimming and whenever I can go to the pool and wade for some time, I feel so happy. Be warned that I can neither do a lap across the pool continuously nor can hold breadth under water for more than 10 seconds, still the satisfaction I get from floating in water is unequivocal.

I had attended aqua aerobics training for a month recently and enjoyed the set of exercises very much. Today in the pool I practiced some of those exercises I have learnt, floated happily, kicked and splashed around, swam a little and feeling so good. I tried floating on my back and want to practice more on it. Hope to go regularly in the whole of summer 😀


Would love to hear the ‘One thing’ that made you all Happy  today.



Poles apart….BUT connected


Marriage between two individuals is equated with the parallel rail tracks which stay apart but ensure smooth running of trains. Last few days I have been forced to think about this sacred institution (not so sacred anymore) and how it is viewed.

Its is more romantic to think that Marriage will happen between two people who have similar likings and once married would love to share everything with no secrets between them and they will be like two halves of a circle perfectly aligned. Of course, it’s not so always and in most successful marriages, it may be entirely opposite too.


So when I followed my train of thoughts and observed our own lives and others in our surroundings, mostly found the halves being on the opposite poles:

  • When one lives happily in the present moment and can’t think of beyond today ; other is long term oriented with perfect plan for retirement and beyond
  • One spouse is totally emotional and sensitive being, in contrast to the wholly practical approached counterpart with strong convictions doesn’t get shaken by any storm.
  • A partner will be principled on hard work and strict discipline as the ways to success while the other half believe on smartness and luck factors
  • One is an early riser and goes to bed early while the other loves to sit late and considers that early prey gets caught by its predator
  • Routine things bores the female to the extent that she keeps two toothbrushes to alternate between; whereas the male never tires in keep doing the same pattern of activities……. for eons.
  • In reading books and whiling away she gets her relaxation while rigorous fitness regime gives him the everlasting high.
  • Going to new places and exploring new things provide the absolute pleasure for the woman; The man loves being at home after his work as change in schedule makes him restless
  •  While the masculine gender can recollect every name and number from childhood but forgets the wedding day, the feminine form can’t even remember own phone number but vividly recollects all moments of their life together
  • Her commercial sense of the world is abysmal ; his idea on the home front is dreadful
  • Satvic food is preferred by one and spicy food by the other

The list can go on similar to every married couple’s arguments sometime 😉

But what matters is the understanding they have of each other and the willingness to accept and appreciate other person’s choices and preferences.

Not identical tastes, rather love, respect and trust are equally important to stay together and save the marriage.

I chose to accept, appreciate, trust, respect and love ……….what about you?