Scorpio Soul Search

An outlet for my thoughts, imagination and creative feelings!


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Ultimate Goal

“You are born here to be happy”

“Winning or losing, Life is a celebration”

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Everyday, we face a lot of situations which make us feel happy, sad, angry, upset, overwhelmed, depressed or confused too sometime. Whatever may be the reaction, it is very important that as soon as possible, we return back to our basic objective of our life, i.e, being happy. 

If we allow any other feelings that I mentioned above to take over the whole day, the knots will be tightened and detangling will be difficult, which is against our human nature. We need to find the ends quickly and be free and fine at the end of the day. When we focus on the positive things, however small they may be, it will blow up soon to mask the failings. It is also true that happiness is communicable and we make the world a better place to live for others by we being happy. 

As per my understanding and experience so far, life is a balancing act, day in day out. People who have understood this and took control at the earliest, find peace and happiness in their life. Success follows them since they make it happen in the way they desire it. The happy person can improve life not only for himself but also for others by spreading his positive energy on them.

Our good health is the basic canvas on which we draw the picture of our life; I felt that to obtain a healthy mind and body, happiness is the key which comes only when we have the control over our emotions, in turn our reactions to situations. Hence, although at times I am overcome with sadness, anger, regrets and resentments, I don’t want to allow them to run amok forever. I take a decision, shift the gear and turn my focus on the infinite blessings of my life and force / fake a smile initially which soon turn into the natural feeling. 😊☺️

I am neither a saint nor can become one 😌😉 but totally unwilling to live in perpetual misery as I sincerely believe my life is a gift and I should cherish the moments as merrily as possible. Because That is my ‘ultimate Goal’ 👍😊

My plain and simple suggestion is……whenever you are feeling low, change gear, focus on the positive, fake a smile and ‘Be natural self’ again, ‘coz, we are ‘Born Here To Be Happy’ 😁😀😃

Happy Weekend to all!!!!🎊🎊🎉🎉💐💐

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Winged Days

An unhurried sense of time in itself is wealth – Anonymous

Why the days fly so fast?Why can’t they slow down a bit? Minutes vanish when I blink and turn into hours and days. Days chase weeks and weekends away. Before even I  am sure of the current date, another month is here already. Is time playing with me only or with all?

I wake up on a Friday and turn over to see the Sunday evening. Monday opens up with the blues and soon Thursday is ringed in with the green bells. Either week days or weekends, all those 24 hours run like a marathoner and reach their end line in a flash.   Recollecting the accomplishment of a day or a week or a month is so foggy that it is unclear whether I achieved it this year or in the year before 😉 My memory is always not that strong  😛

I like my days to be unhurried and relaxed enough to do the things I want to do. It should be long enough for me to complete them and feel a sense of achievement before I hit the bed. This blurry rush of things and always doing some chores as routine life demands are not what I planned my days to be. 😦

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But I also know, I am the pilot of my days and should  manoeuvre it in the direction I choose to travel. It is the speed which I need to take control first! 😀

More mastery and  command over the clock soon!


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Live Life Lightly :D

Ages since I wrote something and it was sitting like a heavy stone on my heart. Since it is my nature to do something only when I am absolutely comfortable and feel perfect, I was postponing the process of converting my thoughts into words.

I planned to write about:

  • the calm and totally relaxing summer break I had with my son
  • my unexpected comeback to teaching which is fulfilling
  • my observations on the changes happening in our son growing from a tween to a teen
  • how I went from the initial shock to calmly accepting the inevitable when our son also turned vegan one fine evening (hubby turned vegan a year back)
  • the two runs (6K and 4K) I participated recently and my takeaways from them
  • the joy of knowing that the effort of regular work out finally showing up
  • the knowledge or enlightenment(!!!) that understanding what is important in life and how to overlook/ignore certain things

All  are mixed up with emotions overflowing sometime and utterly blank other times. Hence this delay in posting anything till I sort out in my mind on what I want to write. But the days were full of so much learning and insight to get a hang of my inner feelings and matching them with my external being.

Ah, truly I am blessed to have started the journey of ‘being happy and contented’ irrespective of the situations I am in. Wait there, I haven’t drunk the ‘elixir’ or attained inordinate wisdom , it is still the same path with ups and downs, however, the time taken to move from the low point to high point keeps reducing as with the awareness.  I am slowly overcoming the guilty and fear I feel every time I am happy. Practicing to live life lightly by shedding the excess baggage one by one, thats it. 😉 😀

We are borne here to be happy, period. Celebrate life!!!!!! 🙂


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Realisation

I haven’t written anything for more than a fortnight which is a longtime after starting to blog. But I was not restless this time. I have accepted the impossibility due to my preoccupation with other things. Though I felt sad that I couldn’t allot time for my favourite thing in the world, I was not upset and moody about it, which usually happens and affects everything around me.☹️😖

“Stress is caused by being here and wanting to be there”

It was a great realisation that what is happening in the moment, i.e., NOW, is more important than what I missed or couldn’t do or could have done. (Yahoo!! ….that means I have matured enough to understand and accept realities / situations 😜)

Yes, last few days, I was preoccupied with things at the ground level and couldn’t allow my mind to fly away as I loved to do. 🦋🦋

Usually when I have things other than what I want to do, I will be restless and frustrated. I will imagine myself a donkey pulling a heavy cart load that too reluctantly and feel burdened with the mundane tasks. I was amazed that this time I had more control over my mind and didn’t allow it to throw tantrums (eh!!! I still do), shown a lot of patience and resilience, focussed on what has to be done rather than disillusioned, which felt really good.

Someone said no one is busy in the world; only the priorities differ. Being aware of the priorities at this point was the key for my keeping calm. I am no super human and within the available 24 hours, providing for eating and sleeping😋😴 (I surely can’t leave these out of my planning😊), only certain activities can be taken up and achieved. I have to clearly mention here that it solely depends on the ability of the person.

It is absolutely unnecessary to fret over things that are not done / cannot be done. Being in the present moment is the best gift we can give to ourselves rather than either constantly regretting about the past or planning for the future. Though heard this many a times before, the practical application, however unplanned, brought such a joy and revelation.

I am aware of my capabilities (if I am ignorant even now, then I need to see a doctor 🤒👨‍⚕️ ) and limitations to take up tasks accordingly. Based on the capacity of the container and the density of the material we decide the quantity that can be stored. Similarly every day comes with only limited hours and lets fill it to the brim with different deeds but without frustrating ourselves and a mindfullness.

“Today is the first day of the rest of my life”

is an excellent quote to begin everyday!

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Poles apart….BUT connected

“I CHOOSE YOU…EVERY DAY; NOT JUST THE GOOD ONES”

Marriage between two individuals is equated with the parallel rail tracks which stay apart but ensure smooth running of trains. Last few days I have been forced to think about this sacred institution (not so sacred anymore) and how it is viewed.

Its is more romantic to think that Marriage will happen between two people who have similar likings and once married would love to share everything with no secrets between them and they will be like two halves of a circle perfectly aligned. Of course, it’s not so always and in most successful marriages, it may be entirely opposite too.

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So when I followed my train of thoughts and observed our own lives and others in our surroundings, mostly found the halves being on the opposite poles:

  • When one lives happily in the present moment and can’t think of beyond today ; other is long term oriented with perfect plan for retirement and beyond
  • One spouse is totally emotional and sensitive being, in contrast to the wholly practical approached counterpart with strong convictions doesn’t get shaken by any storm.
  • A partner will be principled on hard work and strict discipline as the ways to success while the other half believe on smartness and luck factors
  • One is an early riser and goes to bed early while the other loves to sit late and considers that early prey gets caught by its predator
  • Routine things bores the female to the extent that she keeps two toothbrushes to alternate between; whereas the male never tires in keep doing the same pattern of activities……. for eons.
  • In reading books and whiling away she gets her relaxation while rigorous fitness regime gives him the everlasting high.
  • Going to new places and exploring new things provide the absolute pleasure for the woman; The man loves being at home after his work as change in schedule makes him restless
  •  While the masculine gender can recollect every name and number from childhood but forgets the wedding day, the feminine form can’t even remember own phone number but vividly recollects all moments of their life together
  • Her commercial sense of the world is abysmal ; his idea on the home front is dreadful
  • Satvic food is preferred by one and spicy food by the other

The list can go on similar to every married couple’s arguments sometime 😉

But what matters is the understanding they have of each other and the willingness to accept and appreciate other person’s choices and preferences.

Not identical tastes, rather love, respect and trust are equally important to stay together and save the marriage.

I chose to accept, appreciate, trust, respect and love ……….what about you?

 

 


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I’m Possible!

In the last three days I had three outings with friends and thoroughly enjoyed the whole time.

Two of them are with the same set of adults and their kids with whom I watched a movie and trekked a hill nearby our place. Both activities were planned with little time in advance and mostly through Whatsapp group discussion still achieved a greater participation with enthusiasm. As far as I am concerned, the whole experience was an absolute pleasure and filed under ‘my most memorable days’ folder.

if I think about the people (5 awesome ladies) with whom I shared these moments, we are not bestsies or thick friends who touch base always although we know each other for more than 5 years. A common friend connected all of us and we were happy to come together. We did some adjustments in our daily life to accommodate these outings, for the sake of kids and for ourselves. Took it in our stride when some of the things that happened were not as per our expectations or liking.  None of us complained too much or intruded in other’s privacy but ensured that all are included in the fun part without fail. Laughed out loud, encouraged each other to try new things, asked for each one’s review of the movie and exchanged ideas along with refreshments.

In all, it was a very cordial time spent together and each activity lasted four hours maximum on the day and it was not difficult to manage.

Therefore, when my friend called and said that because of this group it was possible and with some others it would not have been easy to pull through, I was astonished. She was saying that most if invited would like to know ‘who else are coming’ before even asking ‘where are we going or what are we doing’.  They have so much hesitation to even try or do some adjustments for a day to move with people from similar backgrounds. As I said it’s hardly four hours of interaction and in that also it was not necessary to be intimate with everyone all the time.  Even then it is unacceptable to some and they will be happy to throw away the fantastic experience of meeting people and having a wonderful time.

IMG_0718The insecurities, uncomfortable feelings, less confidence in self, ego clashes, fear of unknown, etc etc are quoted as reasons for this. But I wonder, where is the simplicity, humility, acceptance, joy of being together, sensitivity, considering others before self, goodness etc etc which will allow us to lower our guard sometime and enjoy life.

Surely I am not alone!

 


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Have a Good day!

Today morning I woke up reluctantly although I knew my schedule and deadlines to meet. While contemplating to prolong the sleep a while more, my thoughts drifted to the different things that motivate each one to leave sleep and embrace the morning every day.

The passion of doing things they like will motivate some to jump out of the bed and involve themselves whereas as basic as of having good food may rouse up so many.

For some it is what they do, get up and carry on the daily chores in a routine way till they hit the bed and again the same dreary day next. While for some it is a God given gift to wake up to a new morning.

It may be duties they have towards their children and family which pushes some out of their slumber while it is the eagerness to meet ‘the one’ today for a few.

Making money or making it big awakens people sometime and other times it is just the thought of having quietness before the humdrum of a busy day.

Fitness freaks keep their shoes next to the bed and hop into them as soon as the alarm rings whereas lazy ones waiting for someone to pour a bucketful of water on their head.

Smarties planned their schedule to the ‘T’ and nothing will stop them from achieving their goals leave alone a cosy bed on a chill morning.

For grandparents, it may be the day their grandkid is visiting, hence need an early rise to make special preparations while young parents haven’t slept at all.

Some kids have their fixed time slots for sleeping and getting up during exam time with their parents keeping prior slots to ensure they stick to them.

Most have different schedules for weekdays and weekends though that cannot be said for quite a few. The stirring up happens on earth for most of us with some come to life on air and a handful do in the space too.

Wherever you are and whenever you emerge from the sleep, whatever you look forward to or planned to accomplish today, be there and relish each moment.

Wishing a very Good day to you all!

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